FINALLY BLOGGING !..... YIPPIEEE

Yes! I can’t believe myself.

I know I am the only one cheering aloud for this.

After years of laziness – I have decided that I will move my a@# and start writing something or other. I am cheering because after months of pondering to just even write one sentence – I have created three blogs in a day.

I think this is due to the sudden increase in my reasoning skills – thanks to my one year who is making me to be more aware of life around me and inturn infusing life in me. I have suddenly started to hear birds chirp amidst loud music and see clearly small dots out of any busy commercial. May be I was too fast running in my life that I have been missing the real course of joy.

I adapted the same technique with him. Fast track his growth, his thoughts by thrusting him with too many objectives – too many situations – too many bookish parenting techniques. But nature is great – it teaches you and nurtures you in the right pace to your growth. My fast track methods came crushing down when he started learning things and exploring new objects at his pace entirely the opposite way I wanted him to learn. One –by-one , Item-by Item – he started exploring them inside out – outside in, top-down, down-side-top. I think his game is to be not predictable in his approach. Randomise the exploration and then let the object teach you what you can’t learn by following the rules. He followed it for every toy, every food and every relationship. And all the time I was trying to go against the nature and teach him to hold the way I hold a toy or food or behave with someone. By being random and spontaneous with every human relationship (with his carer, Mother, Grand mother) he was evoking our true character. He was putting us under check on our character and temperament and laughed at us for not keeping our temperament under check. May be it’s not the temperament – it’s the patience which was lacking - or may be it was the temperament and patience together.

Whatever it was it was driving me crazy. It made me look miniscule. It was a scary feeling when you know that the one year old knows that he is in control. Phew…It becomes suddenly an issue everywhere even outside the house. Unconsciously you are trying to throw authority over people egoistically satisfying your control issue with your one year old.

He was so consistently inquisitive and I was consistently inconsistent.

One day, lying next to him while he was looking at the dust particles dancing in the sun’s diffused rays – I understood what was missing in my point. Well - I was missing his point. I was missing his view point.

Now – comes the difficult part – though I figured out the problem – I wasn’t able identify the best solution to it. Because my life has fast tracked too much – I can’t even understand that there can be a miniscule viewpoint to a simple object. A ball is a Ball – a round one – how simply can I explain it or make him understand. Well – after many failed attempts I found out that though I understood I have to view through his world – I am still trying to tell him what is commonly perceived or what I want him to understand. That means – I was useless in getting into smaller details of life and make it simpler. What would be the simplest way then? –

Well after various observations and out of frustration I started not to tell him anything about the object he touches and let the boy learns about it on his own exploration! May be he comes up with his own interpretation which can make more sense of the object. Believe me – suddenly I was in control. I never spent hours explaining things to do my way or the world’s way to be eventually thrown or done in completely opposite way by him. Instead- I set the context and a safe environment and then allowed him to explore the object without a word or meaning to it. Every time he found a new curve or new popping out doll – he came running to me to show his little discovery. His eyes was filled with surprise which was missing earlier when i use to break his small discoveries. I had been inadvertenly breaking his small inventions and discoveries by letting him know the consequence. He wanted me take control of his doings by trusting me with his toys and playing with them. At the end of his experiment, before he moves to the next one – he would look at me for a meaning or approval. That’s when I told him that he played with a balloon and next time if he wants to play he can ask for the balloon. Off he goes to the next experiment and after 3 hours he comes back for his “Bal….n”.
Well - my first lesson was better than his “Balloon” lesson. If he is remembering it better then it gives me more reason to remember and work on it too.

Once I understood the Power of observation and view points, suddenly my years of knowledge looked through the viewpoints of our family values, social culture, National collective consciousness and personal comfort – started to wither down. I haven’t challenged much like a child – inside out, outside in , top down, down top , side by side, near far, far near. I have been running like the horse with its eyes blinded on its sides – just following the path – not reasoning it – not critiquing it – not speaking out. Most importantly not looking through different viewpoints. I was not in control of my life. Though i knew that i use to be a vivid critique when i was young.

Here I am – finally – to look at life and aspects around it through different lenses. The lenses will be varied but the connecting theme will be that it’s my true feeling and belief. It may be offending someone or praising someone but I want to write the true emotions out. It may be grammatically wrong. Past tense mixed with Present tense – but my future lies within reasoning the Life. It may be correct at that moment and may be wrong at the next day but atleast i will be putting words to my thought refreshing my young age exploration.

I was reminded of the phrase “If you don’t stand for something; you will fall for anything”

Finally my treasure island is going to be opened up and shared among you.

Three cheers to you all for reading this blog and request everyone to contribute to my debate topics and present your view points to enhance our reasoning part. Trust me that I will come up with topics and concept which will enlighten you everyday.